fix: remove more forcefully

[tmm1]

Checklist

• npm install && npm run lint && npm test passes
• tests are included
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Description of change

on some linux machines, i observed:

npm error gyp http fetch GET https://artifacts.electronjs.org/headers/v30.5.1/node-v30.5.1-headers.tar.gz?force_headers_dist=1 attempt 1 failed with ETIMEDOUT
npm error gyp WARN install got an error, rolling back install
npm error gyp ERR! configure error
npm error gyp ERR! stack Error: ENOTEMPTY: directory not empty, rmdir '/home/AzDevOps/.cache/node-gyp/30.5.1/include/node'

(side note: i'm not sure why the http fetch is not being retried, or where the "attempt 1" comes from)

unfortunately this leaves the system in a broken state, as a subsequent retries (with my own loop around npm) all fail:

npm failed 1, trying again...
...
npm error gyp WARN read config.gypi ENOENT: no such file or directory, open '/home/AzDevOps/.cache/node-gyp/30.5.1/include/node/config.gypi'

this is apparently a known and documented issue. i have implemented the recommended workaround in this PR.

[cclauss]

macOS on Intel seems to fail but macOS on ARM seems to always pass.

I got the same CI test results with unrelated changes on #3114

[tmm1]

ironically it seems similar to the issue i described here. there must be another fs.rm somewhere that needs retries.